Maliyah Coye

I work with clients who are struggling with anxiety related to earlier experiences of trauma or conflict with their family of origin. We are becoming more aware of how family trauma gets passed down. Some of your survival strategies, like people-pleasing, staying quiet, and being non-confrontational might have been useful to your younger self or even your ancestors at one point in time. But it might be preventing you from fully thriving in the present. It takes time but it is possible to tend to fearful part that tells you to keep saying yes, even when it doesn't serve you. It can be extremely uncomfortable at first, even scary, to say 'no' and communicate your needs and desires. It requires safety and a willingness to break silence.